CONCEPT OF FRIENDSHIP IN ISLAM

 

Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barkatuh!

 

Holy Quran Chapter 5.55. Innama waliyyukumu Allahu warasooluhu waallatheena amanoo allatheena yuqeemoona alssalata wayu/toona alzzakata wahum rakiAAoona 5.55. Verily, your Walî (Protector or Helper) is Allâh, His Messenger, and the believers, - those who perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), and give Zakât, and they bow down (submit themselves with obedience to Allâh in prayer).

 

Holy Quran chapter 5.55

 

Humans are social creatures by nature; they're always in need of friends and companions. Most of our lives depend on interaction with others. Strong individuals are the core of a strong community, something that Muslims should always strive for.

We all know that Allah the Most High  has brought us to life in order to test us.
Thus we are here for a relatively short period of time and that we shall meet Allah one Day,  so we need to use our present life for what is best for us in the hereafter.
Once we know our purpose and our goal in life, we should seek ways to achieve them  so as to benefit our own selves.

In an authentic Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (Sall'Allahu alaihi wasallam) said:

"A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend."
 Prophet Mohammad (Sall'Allahu alaihi wasallam) who has the most noble character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear and simple message and advice  in regard to friendship.

 

How should we choose our friends?

We should choose the friend that believes and abide by our religion (Islam) and gives great respect to what Allah and Prophet Mohammad (Sall'Allahu alaihi wasallam) has ordered us.
And we should stay away from that who is not well mannered and gives no attention to what Islam is about  or what pleases or displeases Allah, for he'll surely affect us negatively.
There is no good in the companion drowns us in sins and displeasing Allah.

The bases for the actions of those who follow the evil ways are corrupt; their actions are built upon misguidance and deviation. Their deeds are worthless to them as Allah (Subhanuhu wa Ta`ala) says:

"And We will proceed to what they have done of deeds, so We shall render them
to scattered floating dust.’’(Holy Quran Chapter 25:23)
Their actions, even if we see them as righteous and noble are of no value to them,
 so how can they be useful to us?

Good friends are those who share their companions both happiness and sadness.
If we share our feelings with the wrong-doers whose actions are worthless and based on corruption, then we are following the same ways and standards as they are, and we'll end up being as corrupted as they are, and then we're in a big trouble, how can we face Allah's dissatisfaction and displeasure?!

Instead of making friends with the misguided ones we should befriend the righteous, yet treat the rest in a gracious and just manner.
Staying at sufficient distance is necessary; yet treating everybody in a noble and kind manner is required.

 

In another Hadith,
Prophet Mohammad (Sall'Allahu alaihi wasallam) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows.
So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him.
As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."

When choosing our friends we should ask ourselves first:

Are they going to help us achieve the purpose for which we were brought to life? or will they take us away from it?

Will they desire for us Allah's pleasure or is that completely irrelevant to them and not their concern at all?

Are they leading us to Paradise or to the Hell?

Allah (Subhanuhu wa Ta`ala) says in Noble Qur'an:

"O you who believe! Take care of your own selves. If you follow the right guidance and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong no hurt can come to you from those who are in error.The return of you all is to Allah, then He will inform you about (all) that which you used to do." (Holy Quran Chapter - 5:105)